离家出走:离家出走的孩子下场
时间：2018-12-27 03:37:07 来源：柠檬阅读网 本文已影响 人 
On a very hectic day when my husband and I were busy going in a hundred directions, our four-and-a-half-year-old son, Justin Carl, had to be reprimanded for getting into mischief. After several attempts, my husband George finally told him to stand in the corner. He was very quiet but wasn"t too happy about it. Finally, after a few moments, he said, "I"m going to run away from home."
My first reaction was surprise, and his words angered me. "You are?" I blurted. But as I turned to look at him, he looked like an angel, so small, so innocent, with his face so sad.
As my heart felt his pain, I remembered a moment in my own childhood when I spoke those words and how unloved and lonely I felt. He was saying so much more than just his words. He was crying from within, "Don"t you dare ignore me. Please notice me!I"m important too. Please make me feel wanted, unconditionally loved and needed."
"Okay, Jussie, you can run away from home," I tenderly whispered as I started picking out clothes, "Well, we"ll need pj"s, your coat..."
"Mama," he said, "what are you doing?"
"We"ll also need my coat and nightgown."
I packed these items into a bag and placed it by the front door. "Okay, Jussie, are you sure you want to run away from home?"
"Yeah, but where are you goin"?"
"Well, if you"re going to run away from home, then Mama"s going with you, because I would never want you to be alone. I love you too much, Justin Carl."
We held each other while we talked. "Why do you want to come with me?"
I looked into his eyes. "Because I love you, Justin. My life would never be the same if you went away. So I want to make sure you"ll be safe. If you do go, I will go with you."
"Can Daddy come?"
"No, Daddy has to stay home with your brothers. And Daddy has to work and take care of the house while we"re gone."
"Can Freddie (the dog) come?"
"No, Freddie has to stay here, too."
He thought for a while and said, "Mama, can We stay home?"
"Yes, Justin, we can stay home."
"Mama,"
"Yes, Justin?"
"I love you."
"I love you too, honey. How about you help me make some popcorn?"
"All right."
In that moment I knew the wondrous gift of motherhood I had been given, that the sacred responsibilities to help develop a child"s sense of security and self- esteem are nothing to be taken lightly. I realized that in my arms I held the precious gift of childhood: a beautiful piece of clay willing and wanting to be cuddled and magnificently molded into a confident adult masterpiece. I learned that as a mother I should never "run away" from the opportunity to show my children they are wanted, important, lovable and the most precious gift from God.
那是个忙乱的日子，我和丈夫正忙得不亦乐乎。四岁半的儿子贾斯廷・卡尔频频遭到训斥，因为他总是添乱。几次批评过后仍无济于事，最后，丈夫乔治让他去角落站着思过。他变得很安静，但是不太高兴。一阵沉默过后，他说道：“我要离家出走。”
我的第一反应是很吃惊，他的话惹怒了我。“你会吗?”我脱口问道。但当我转过头看他时，发现他是如此娇小无辜，像一个小天使，只是脸上流露出悲伤的表情。
我理解他的苦楚。记得我小时候也曾说过这样的话，那一刻只是感觉很失落、孤独和无助。他说出的这句话包括了太多的含义。他的内心在哭泣：“你们不该这样忽视我!请关注我!我也非常重要。请让我知道你们需要我，无条件地爱我，确实离不开我!”
“好啊，贾西，你可以离家出走，”我柔和地小声对他说，然后开始给他整理衣物，“呃，我们要把你的T恤和外套带上……”
“妈妈，”他说，“你做什么呢?”
“还得把我的外套和睡衣也带上。”我把衣物装到包里，放到门口。“好了，贾西，你确实要离家出走吗?”
“对，可是你要去哪里呢?”（接下页）
（接上页）“哦，如果你要离家出走，妈妈要陪你一起走，妈妈不想让你孤单一个人。因为妈妈太爱你了，贾斯廷・卡尔!”
说着，我们拥抱在一起。“为什么你要陪我一起走呢?”
我凝视着他的眼睛。“因为我爱你，贾斯廷。如果你走了，我生活的一切都将改变，所以我一定要保证你的安全。如果你要走，我就陪你一起走。”
“爸爸能和我们一起走吗?”
“不能，爸爸要和你哥哥们待在家里。他还得上班，我们不在家时，他要看家。”
“弗雷迪(狗)能和我们一起走吗?”
“不，弗雷迪也必须待在家里。”
他沉思了片刻说：“妈妈，我们可以留在家里吗?”
“当然可以，贾斯廷，我们可以留在家里。”
“妈妈。”
“什么事，贾斯廷?”
“我爱你。”
“我也爱你，宝贝。和我一起去做爆米花怎么样?”
“好吧。”
刹那间，我懂得了，给孩子安全感，帮助他们培养自尊心是身为人母神圣不可推卸的责任，他们是上天赋予我们的神奇礼物。我感觉怀抱的是一份孩童时期无比贵重的礼物：一个渴望得到关爱的雏形，他们希望被打造成辉煌的杰作――一个自信的成年人。我知道身为人母决不可以“躲避”任何向孩子表白的机会，要告诉他们：他们无可替代，他们是重要的、惹人喜爱的，是上天给予的最贵重的礼物。
